couples sex therapy FAQ
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What is sex therapy for couples and how can it help our relationship?

Sex therapy for couples is couples counseling focused directly on the sexual part of the relationship.

At CHMHST, we believe that working on the problems inside the bedroom is just important as the problems outside of the bedroom. We believe in the importance a mutually happy relationship and that sexual satisfaction is important part of overall satisfaction in a relationship.

In other words, the better the sex, the happier a relationship or marriage you will have.

The skills required to be a great sexual partner are the exact skills one needs to be a good partner outside the bedroom like:

  • Communication
  • Presence
  • Connection
  • Intimacy
  • Emotional empathy
  • Love

We believe that positive energy among partner’s flows from the bedroom outward to rest of one’s relationship. We work to strengthen the intimacy and connection between you and your partner, unlocking the passion for each other, both romantic and the erotic.

By help your relationship by working through the harm caused by:

  • Infidelity
  • Conflict
  • No or infrequent sexual encounters
  • Infertility
  • Illness
  • Lack of intimacy
  • Loss

We also help new parents working to reconnect or maintain their sexually alongside the struggles of being new parents.

What is holistic sex therapy for couples?

Holistic couple’s sex therapy is couple’s therapy that incorporates many different types of therapeutic practices including:

  • Mediation
  • Tantric practices
  • Mindfulness
  • Traditional psychotherapy

By improving a couple’s communication, affection, appreciation, bond, connection, and erotic desire for each other it allows them to be more present, open, empathetic, and loving towards one another.

How does meditation create better sex?

Great sex requires presence and focus.

We use meditation as way to relax the body, unblock sexual energy, and retrain the mind to stay present in the moment longer and longer.

Breath is a connection between the mind and body because breathing is only behavior that the body does both consciously and unconsciously. By utilizing the breath and understanding, processing, identifying ones emotions is a recipe for the best sex.

Meditation may be considered new to many but it has been practiced for millennia, just not in our culture.

What is tantra?

Tantra is an ancient philosophy based in the Hindu and Buddhist cultural traditions known to enhance sexual pleasure.

The philosophy is about the flow of sexual energy through the body both feminine and masculine. By increasing and unblocking the flow of the energy we can have sexual encounters that are more pleasurable, intimate, spiritual, and for long periods of time.

In other words: better, more fulfilling, and longer sexual encounters.

What is the benefit of seeing a sex therapist over a couple’s counselor or marriage and family therapist?

A sex therapist has all the knowledge of any other couples and marriage therapist plus specialized training in human sexuality.

Couples sex therapists are experts in all things regarding human sexuality including relationships. By contrast, a couple’s therapist in general is not required to be trained in human sexuality.

As a sex therapist, I bring knowledge needed to improve your relationship both in the bedroom and out.

Do I need my partner to start couples counseling?

No, often couples counseling begins as individual therapy until the partner comes around to the idea.

Even without your partner present we can improve your relationship by helping working through the things you are struggling with. Often by making the appointment and starting the process a partner usually comes around to idea of counseling.

Do not wait for your partner to be ready to fix your relationship by then it maybe to late. That is often the biggest mistake couples make that ultimately leads to inevitable breakup.

Do you treat polyamorist couples?

We pride ourselves in being knowledgeable and open to all forms of sexuality.

People are as diverse as fingerprints when it comes to sexuality. We believe that safe, sane, and consenting adults have a basic human right to express one’s individual sexuality freely without biases. Sex is more then just intercourse its part of our identity.

Our aim is to help our clients work to build happier lives not change who they are. We condone any practice that tries to change a person to conform to a culturally defined set of “normal” sexual behavior as unethical and unprofessional.

Why should I care about sex when so much is wrong in our relationship?

Sex may seem small in compared to other problems your relationship. However, when it comes to romantic relationships, sex is often part of the way back.

Sex helps people bond, defuses tension, and pleasure is healing.

Sex therapists are trained like any other couple’s counselor with the extra knowledge about human sexuality. Our knowledge about sex and its importance to the healing process makes us uniquely qualified to help you rebuild your relationship or marriage.

Sex is uncomfortable to talk about and I am too embarrassed to talk about our sexual issues. Can I still benefit from counseling?

Sex is a taboo subject and hard for many people to discuss these types of issues. We understand that. Yet sex is important part of a healthy lifestyle.

People who live unsatisfying sex lives tend to be unhappier, have more mental health issues, and higher rates of divorce.

We want to assure anyone reading this and to ashamed to address sexual issues, we are professionals who have experience dealing with sensitive topics. One of the main goals of sex therapy is to make you more comfortable with your own sexuality and to help you express your needs.

How long will therapy take?

Therapy is a process that takes time. On average, six months is about the length of time a client takes to achieve their goals. Six months is only an estimated average based on past experience.

How long therapy takes is really up to you and how much you need to work on to achieve your overall goals. Some people could take years while others need just a few sessions.

Therapy is a process but is highly effective in treating sexual issues.

Contact us today to learn how the Center for Holistic Mental Health and Sexual Therapy can help revitalize and save your relationship. Together we can build a stronger, more passionate relationship.

The Center for Holistic Mental Health and Sex Therapy is pleased to accept the following  insurance

Cigna Health Insurance

blue cross blue shield insurance