A common complaint I get from many clients is that their partner is “checked out” during sex.
People describe themselves as forcing themselves on their partner or the sex feels bad and mechanical. They describe their partner as uninterested in them or sex in general. This creates so much tension since both sides feel frustrated and angry. The partner who feels their partner is checked out feels rejected and undesired. The partner who is checked out tends to feel forced, pressured, and anxious about disappointing their partner. To fix this problem we must first identify the problem.
The reason to me is simple: you are not connecting on more then a genital level.
A person in a monogamous relationship places every ounce of trust into their partner and infidelity is a complete violation of that sacred trust.
After the infidelity has occurred it can feel like the world has ended and there is no way back. Depending on the relationship, you can move forward and restore the lost trust to form a new, stronger relationship. Here is how to start.
One of the biggest relationship killers is infertility.
Fertility issues can poison a relationship in two major ways. First, the poison starts in the bedroom with sex becoming all about making babies and, therefore, losing the intimacy, passion, connection, pleasure, relaxation, and satisfaction great sex brings. The poison bleeds out of the bedroom into the rest of the relationship causing even the best couples to drift apart.
Fall is a great time of year. I love the fall, it is my favorite season. Fall brings football, hockey, cool weather, and a great opportunity to find a lover. I am not sure if it’s getting back to work after summer vacations, the holidays coming up, or the cooler temperatures that drive people to turn the heat up in the bedroom, but fall is a very romantic time of the year. It’s a time of change and I think people see the end of the year and really want companionship. So to help everyone find that new fall love I am providing tips on how to go fishing with success this fall.
Monogamy has many pitfalls when it comes to sex. One such pitfall is in relation to monogamous couples that are dealing with a partner who has a sexual dysfunction. The very nature of monogamy is a problem because we must depend on one person to satisfy all our sexual needs, and, often, that means the rest of one’s life. Here lies the problem. What if that person cannot provide sexually for his/her partner? What does the functioning partner have to do? break-up? cheat? or suffer? I have a better option, help your partner in their treatment and heal together.