One reason sex in long-term relationships loses its excitement and becomes routine is a lack of playfulness. As children we were free from the burden of responsibility, a freedom that as we grow into adulthood we are unable to enjoy. We yearn for just a taste of those feelings we had when we were kids playing games on the playground.
Great sex requires communication there is just no way around that. Getting what you want is simple: you must tell your partner what or how to please you. Often couples use negative feedback to direct their partners, leaving them feeling bad and turned off.
For many couples, struggling to be sexual often has more to do with style, speed, and disconnection than a lack of desire. Couple’s sex lives often break down because they neither develop a mutually satisfying sexual style, dialogue, nor an understanding of their partner’s body and sexual response.
Circular breathing can be done and used in many different ways. Circular breathing is when one inhales while the other exhales and vice versa. Simplicity in its practice but yet can be intense emotionally.
Circular Breathing may sound simple but can even be difficult for people who struggle with remaining mindful and intimacy. The practice is a Tantric breathing technique that brings two people in sync and builds bonds and intimacy between them.
Men Will Avoid Sex Because of Performance Anxiety shy male
Male sexual avoidance is often the product of performance anxiety. For a man, to see sex as good, two things need to happen:
1. They must preform like a porn star and their partner needs to orgasm.
2. They must see sex as good only if their partner enjoyed it and achieve an orgasm.
The current standard for a man to be a great lover is the porn industry and Hollywood, but the truth is:
Pleasure and touch are hard things for many to accept without guilt, obligation and the pressure to reciprocate the favor. Sensation exercises can help overcome those feelings.
Many people feel either uncomfortable or guilty with pleasure.
They feel undeserving of such good feelings and feel the need to please. What we end up with is people having sex trying to please and ignoring their own pleasure. For many, it becomes more about the other person’s pleasure rather than your own.
It’s a New Year and it’s time for those notorious New Year’s resolutions. These are goals we set for the new year ahead. Often we set goals like losing weight, getting more exercise, getting a new job, or eating better. I suggest a different goal: improving your sex lives and having a more pleasurable year.
We know exercise and eating well is a recipe for a healthier life. With advancement in sex research over the last 65 years, we are discovering that the amount of sex America is having is contributing to our poor physical and mental health.
In a relationship feeling loved and being loved can often seem like different things. We love our partners but often not in the way they need to be loved. Loving your partner, not on your terms, but rather on theirs could be the ticket to having more sex and a happier relationship or marriage. The path to anyone’s pants must past through the heart first, whether it be a first date or after 50 years. It is simple.
The more a person feels loved the the more a person will be sexually receptive.