One reason sex in long-term relationships loses its excitement and becomes routine is a lack of playfulness. As children we were free from the burden of responsibility, a freedom that as we grow into adulthood we are unable to enjoy. We yearn for just a taste of those feelings we had when we were kids playing games on the playground.
The Chakra Breathing Exercise is a mediation designed to be a partnered mediation. Meditating with your partner is little different than meditating alone; the objective is basically the same with a twist. Meditation is supposed to bring balance, presence, clarity of mind, and calm one’s emotions.
Great sex requires communication there is just no way around that. Getting what you want is simple: you must tell your partner what or how to please you. Often couples use negative feedback to direct their partners, leaving them feeling bad and turned off.
For many couples, struggling to be sexual often has more to do with style, speed, and disconnection than a lack of desire. Couple’s sex lives often break down because they neither develop a mutually satisfying sexual style, dialogue, nor an understanding of their partner’s body and sexual response.
Circular breathing can be done and used in many different ways. Circular breathing is when one inhales while the other exhales and vice versa. Simplicity in its practice but yet can be intense emotionally.
Circular Breathing may sound simple but can even be difficult for people who struggle with remaining mindful and intimacy. The practice is a Tantric breathing technique that brings two people in sync and builds bonds and intimacy between them.
Eye gazing is a powerful arrow in Cupid’s quiver. The power of looking, not staring into someone’s eyes is transcending. When a crush looks into your eyes and gives a flirty smile it can turn the worst of days into the greatest day ever. The connecting power eyes have, since they don’t lie, is that they are the window to the soul, and can melt the hardest of hearts.
This month’s exercise is all about harnessing that power to strengthen your relationships.
For partners at any stage of a relationship whether it is the first time you meet or been married 50 years, the effect is the same. Each time you do the exercise, the exercise helps like lifting weights. The exercise can be done at any time as long as you have 5-10 minutes.
A body scan is a brief 15 to 30-minute meditation designed to focus on the messages our body is sending that can tell many things about our emotional state. We feel, not just in heads but with our whole body.
We store our emotions in different parts of the body
For example, tension in the pelvic region, especially the pelvic floor, is often a storage bin for our shame and guilt. The body scan meditation is designed to help us listen to our bodies. Once we can listen to our bodies, we can learn ways elevate the emotional states causing the bad sensations we have in our bodies.
Pleasure and touch are hard things for many to accept without guilt, obligation and the pressure to reciprocate the favor. Sensation exercises can help overcome those feelings.
Many people feel either uncomfortable or guilty with pleasure.
They feel undeserving of such good feelings and feel the need to please. What we end up with is people having sex trying to please and ignoring their own pleasure. For many, it becomes more about the other person’s pleasure rather than your own.